I got asked about the subject of relationships and so this is my response. My rule of thumb is that if you can help it, hold off on starting a relationship. High school already brings a ton of pressure and the last thing you need is a relationship that is complicated by nature. I also understand those who feel the need to have one. For those who are thinking about going in that direction here are a few things I would love for you to think about. This is my relationship checklist and insight.
Being in the wrong type of relationship can do a lot of damage to you as an individual. The bible says in 1 Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.” You must understand that relationships are time consuming and if it is not doing what #2 says you are automatically spending a lot of time doing just the opposite. While relationships can produce good things they also can produce very bad things which can carry over from relationship to relationship.
I believe we deceive ourselves most in the area of relationships. We can be so blinded by our feelings that we allow them to make decisions for us. I do not deny that feelings make it hard for us to just do what we logically know is right. That’s why #5 is so important. You need people in your life that can be honest with you when you are not being honest with yourself. Someone who knows you and can speak logic and common sense into your situation.
You also have to be honest with yourself and listen to those who are in your life that only have your best interest at heart. There is nothing worse than someone choosing to stay in a place that will automatically cause more harm than good. That is why we live in community with others because we need people to speak truth to us when we are blinded and self-deceived.
Three questions for you to ask yourself:
- Am I in a relationship blinded by my feelings?
- Are there steps in this post I haven’t done or applied?
- What part of this post can I relate to the most?
Hope it Helps! Re-post.